The future is such an unknown, as it is for all families – no-one knows what will happen. I’ve kind of stopped thinking or worrying about the long-term future so much.
Tomorrow is unknown, next week is unknown, to be honest, I don’t even know what’s going tohappen in half an hour when Mini walks through the door after school, I can't begin to think about a year's time, or beyond that.
Live in the moment, that’s what I think we need to do more of. We need to read Mini more – now, not think about his actions and body language retrospectively. After all, things are easier with hindsight. We need to have fun and be spontaneous with our children now. We need to respond to their needs and wants (even if they don’t know what they are) now – not in a minute, or later.
We need to make memories with them now, so that they can carry those memories of good times into the future.
I still have worries of course I do, and immediately the worries are around Mini’s education and schooling. They’re around how he feels about school, and how making him go to school makes him feel about us. I hope education in the long-term changes for him, and he begins to accept, if not enjoy it. And I'll still plan - planning means we don't dither about what we're doing, we can just get on and enjoy it, knowing the details are sorted, and yes I'm already planning the next few months.
But for the long term future…can we be happy? I hope so.