You are the most special little girl do you know that? You are a miracle, because after years and years of trying and treatment, Daddy and I never thought I'd be able to get pregnant.
The doctors gave us some hard choices, but we decided that it would be best to try to adopt a child, instead of spending lots of time in and out of hospital. After the lovely social workers said we were allowed to be a mummy and daddy, your brother Mini came home and we were thrilled to become a family. He was a cute, lively, happy boy and we adored him then as we do now.
A positive pregnancy test late the next year was a complete shock. I had to take 4 tests just to be sure, and even then I didn't believe it until you were in my arms. A beautiful, chubby little baby girl, with heaps of hair and sparkling eyes.
Life hasn't been easy for either of you has it? You see, before Mini came to live here, he had some tough times. He moved a couple of times. It was hard for him to leave his first mummy, and then his foster mummy too. He still has some memories of them, and he can remember the way he felt back then. It makes him sad sometimes, and other times he doesn't understand why he's sad...that makes him cross with himself, and cross that we're not helping him. And he gets cross that he's different to you.
And for you? Well, you put up with a lot...
You are such a happy, content little girl, full of cuddles and kisses for all of us. And you're very clever too, and that's why sometimes I worry - that you're so clever perhaps you understand too much, especially when you're not even 3 yet.
You know that Mini takes up lots of our time, but you never complain. Sometimes you speak over Mini to get your voice heard, but I think all brothers and sisters do that. Sometimes you hit him too, but usually only when he's hit you first...I think that's normal too (because me and my brother used to do it aswell!).
Mostly you watch Mini scream, shout, tantrum, hit, kick and cry. And then you give me cuddles and check if I'm OK. Sometimes you ask if Mini's OK too, and you stroke his back and tell him to 'cheer up' or 'have a cuddle'.
You are really clever and very kind when you do those things, and it makes me very proud.
I want you to know Dollop that even though we spend lots of time with Mini, me and Daddy love you very very much. And even though he gets angry sometimes, Mini loves you very much too - he tells us, and sometimes he tells you too. Most big brothers get a bit cross with their little sisters sometimes - that's OK. And it's OK that he annoys you sometimes too. He still loves you, and we know you love him - as you say, he's the bestest brother in the whole world ever! And we love Mini too, he's our little big man, and just about the most special big brother you could ever want.
I've written to Mini before, but this is especially for you Dollop. It won't always be like this I promise. We're seeing a special man who helps us and Mini play, and it's already helping Mini be more cuddly, comfy, relaxed and friendly with us. Perhaps one day you'll come too, but for now, you enjoy spending time with Nanna and Grandad (remember, grandad LOVES reading to you!!).
For now darling, remember that we all love you, and we love being with you and seeing you grow and change into a big girl, a very clever, chatty, big girl. Don't ever change my lovely.
Love you loads and loads (like chocolate toads)