Tuesday, 16 April 2013

The firing squad

Adoptive parents lonely hearts....

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Perhaps not, but I do wonder sometimes how I come across to Mini's teaching staff. His old teacher just switched off whenever I was there. She didn't take much notice, and certainly didn't take me seriously. She's now the SENCO.

Now Mini's teacher in Year 1 is also the head of year. I have a meeting with her, the SENCO and the head teacher tomorrow after I wrote rather a strong letter asking lots of questions about Mini's IEP. And made suggestions on things that I didn't feel needed to be included, and some that hadn't been but should be.
I feel like I've been summoned to appear in front of a firing squad, when all I really expected was a 'yes, thanks for those suggestions, I'll add them in' type response.
I'll report back after the meeting...if I haven't been shot down. If I have, well, you'll know never to question your child's IEP ever again.

15 comments:

  1. Oh I know this feeling. I'm sure the girls school think I'm just nurotic!
    Good luck with your meeting x

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  2. Good luck. I look forward to hearing how you get on. I had a good IEP meeting back in Feb with Missy's teacher who has now gone to pastures new, which she knew at the time but didn't tell me!

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    1. How frustrating that she didn't tell you!

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  3. Whilst Bonzo's teachers are greatly supportive I too suspect they think I am neurotic, and I am sure they hide when they see me coming! I love your bit about 'expecting them to do unreasonable planning' - made me chuckle!

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    1. I don't care if they think I'm neurotic...I just want them to listen and support, and of course - put up with my reasonable demands!

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  4. Good luck,I work in a school and I'm a parent too,I can honestly see both sides.I hope you get the support both you and your child need,as a mum you have to be their spokesperson and I really hope that the school appreciate this fact.Let us know how you get on xx
    #pocolo

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    1. Thanks Jess. Sadly it didn't go too well. :-(

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    2. Oh no :-( I hope they didn't make you feel bad,you need help and support from school.Have you got any plans what to do now? Lv Jess x

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  5. Good luck with the meeting - they can really make you feel like you are on trial sometimes, flashbacks of being back at school yourself can be quite common! x #PoCoLo

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    1. Thanks Xandi. It really did feel like I was on trial. Really awful...see my latest posts for the results!

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  6. I'm guessing that you have had the meeting by now? How did it all go? I'm hoping that they wanted to talk to you because they wanted to help and not berate! Thank you for linking up to PoCoLo x

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    1. I have had the meeting thanks Tori. Sadly didn't go great (see my latest posts). :-(

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    1. Not brilliant. Feeling kinda low about it all now....see latest posts x

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