I'm not one for resolutions, and anyhow I'm a week and a half too late. But I've been thinking about how I can improve my life and become more positive. This blog is pretty negative, and that's because it's where I store all the crappy bits of our life. It means my head can cope with the other stuff that it needs in order for us to function - basic stuff like remembering how to cook, routines, and what day it is, along with the other stuff - important things about therapeutic parenting and what to do in certain situations with Mini. It also means I can look back and see how far we've come...
As a society I think we're pretty poor at shouting about our achievements, even the little ones. But I do sometimes celebrate our achievements here, see our recent great day out at Colchester Zoo and the time that Mini told me how he felt. However I know that the balance of positive vs negative isn't equal. I don't apologise for that, but I'm pretty sure that if I can try to be more positive about things, then Mini's attitude might change a little bit, and the things we're trying will have a better chance of working too. Plus I might feel a bit happier rather than being suspended in this place of anxiety, which feels not too far away from that rotten (and well-trodden) road to depression...I'm trying to avoid that road if I possibly can, it took a long time to get back from last time.
So... I'm not making a resolution, as I said it's too late for that, plus I don't want to set myself up to fail. There are many different ways of trying to be more positive, some of them gimmicky, some of them lovely and some of them are both, but I want one that the whole family can take part in and take some responsibility for. We have lots of things to be grateful for - some of them small; the whole 8 hours of sleep I got last night and Dollop sitting still while I plaited her hair, some of them big; overall good health and a roof over our heads, and some in the middle; the brilliant time we had on Mini's birthday, our ever improving bedtimes and this morning when Mini wanted something unobtainable and I dealt with his demands therapeutically.
I've chosen something slightly gimmicky, but there is no pressure to choose something every day, and we'll be able to easily see the good times mounting up - a Positivity Pot, which is basically a glass jar.
Yes, you read that right. A jar.
The idea is that we can scribble our good times down on pieces of crafted gorgeousness (that'd be me) or scraps of paper (the rest of the family) and pop them in the jar, we might add photos of great moments too. At the end of the year - or sooner if we need to - we can have a look through all the good times. The kids can help fill it up with the things they like - such as Mini had a great packed lunch, or Dollop was pleased to see Baby Whizz.
And if it doesn't work out, well we haven't lost a lot have we? If it does, we might even turn it into a scrap book at the end of the year. *Notes down the activity for next Christmas hols*
How do you keep positive? Any good ways of recording the good times or do you rely on your memories?