Wednesday, 17 October 2012

A curveball of kindness


Picture the scene…

One grumpy 2 year old who was awoken from her nap to go fetch her brother from school.

One 5 year old who by all accounts has had a pretty good day at school, but is tired.

Two mugs of hot lukewarm chocolate with *exactly* the same number of marshmallows.

Two small bowls containing identical biscuits, and *exactly* the same number of raisins.

What could possibly go wrong?? Well….

The 2 year old didn’t want a biscuit at all. She got a marshmallow stuck to her nose which was THE END OF THE WORLD. Then dribbled hot chocolate all over herself as she cried about this end of days.

The 5 year old wanted a chocolate one and a plain one, and no raisins. He spilt hot chocolate all over himself, but couldn’t ask for help, and could only cry about it. And he wanted dinner – NOW. And he was “really angry with mummy” for not knowing any of this with her superpower of mind-reading.

Result: a slightly nutty-looking mummy, mirroring her son’s body language, talking faster than the speed of that bloke who just sky-dived from space, accepting that mummy made some mistakes, and yes she should have known all of those things, and it must make her boy feel very sad, and she was very sorry that she made him feel like that, but she was grateful that he let her know how he was feeling.

What next? Mummy threw an act-of-kindness curveball to both of her children. Both got dips in their grab bags – the 2 year old for her earlier bravery during her health visitor check-up and the 5 year old for telling mummy how he felt.

Yes, you read that right – he told me how he felt. *Grins*

12 comments:

  1. So great that he was able to tell you. We've been having similar progress in our house. To most these little things are taken for granted but they are huge steps for our adopted kids and a great boost to mum and dad. A sign that we are doing something right. Well done all round. xx

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    1. Absolutely and well done to you too! x

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  2. Popping in from the BritMums round-up and loving the progress being made here, well done you!

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  3. Really got the scene across well.
    Well managed too. Keep up the great work!

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  4. I wanted to come over and say thank you for your lovely comment on my blog, I have started reading a few of your posts and I am wanting to read more! Your little family sound lovely, obviously from the little I have read I can understand your son has behavioural problems but it really sounds like you have a great handle on his fears (just read the one about the policeman - the poor little man) Thank you for visiting my blog and I will definitely be coming back to read more about you as well XX

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    1. Thanks so much for your comment. Loving your blog too and will definitely be back to read some more x

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  5. Such a cute post! I've been there :) Visiting from An Aloha Affair blog hop! I would love for you to stop by if you get a chance. :)

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  6. You know I think we should all get dibs into goodie bags for sharing how we feel-- I'm just saying.

    AND... I totally feel honored that you joined me for An Aloha Affair. It was so sweet to have you and I hope you'll join me and our beautiful An Aloha Affair again today for a whole lotta mingling and growing together.

    xo,
    Nicole
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