Well it’s time to bring you up to speed with what’s been happening.
After a couple of bad night’s sleep last week with lots going on in my head, I wrote a long letter to Glenda explaining how I felt we weren’t moving forward, and that she kept continuing to focus on issues that had been resolved – i.e wetting and soiling, yet the big issues were getting worse – the hitting, the screaming, the manipulating a situation by not making a choice.
At the same time, the NC had contacted Post Adoption Support (partly because Glenda had suggested we did and partly for some support now Mini was becoming aggressive towards him).
So following my initial meeting with the parent supporter, we met with the Post Adoption Support Worker (PASW). After an hour and a half of us talking at him he agree that he would write an action plan, therapy would be good but we’d need to establish the ins and outs of Mini’s issues first. The action plan has been created, and we now have estimated timescales on the action plan, which are not too far away.
We will be undergoing something called a MIM – this stands for Marschack Interaction Method, which is a videoed recording of us interacting with Mini, to evaluate 4 areas – Structure, Engagement, Nurture and Challenge. As I understand it, it will look at me and the NC and our ability to offer these things to Mini, but it will also look at Mini’s ability to respond and engage with us. The video is then evaluated and used to determine which therapies are to be used.
This action plan also involves the parent supporter, and she has now referred me to a parenting course which I start soon, using a different technique to those I’ve used before. She was keen to use this with me anyway, and now the PASW has confirmed it will be useful.
The parent supporter is lovely, open, warm and friendly and will also be accompanying and introducing me to a playgroup so Dollop can socialise, so I can have a bit of a break and so I can meet more mums. She feels that more support for me is vital in helping me support Mini.
Glenda is also named on the action plan, and following my long email, Glenda is now keen to help support the NC as well as me, and she’ll be there during and after the parenting course too to continue to help and support.
So I’m trying not to get too excited by it all, but again it does feel like we’re moving forward, even though the thought of the MIM and attending playgroup are very scary! But after recent attacks (and a horrible biting incident where Mini bit the NC’s leg), we’ll do anything to help Mini…